Family is Everything

Written and Posted by: Margie Babon   Our greatest inspiration in life is our family—parents, siblings, wife, husband, niece and nephews even our grandparents. Not only the biological family but also true More »

Flower Pattern and Mandala in Sweet Potato

Written and Posted by: Margie Babon   Few days ago I crave to eat sweet potatoes cooked in coconut milk with sugar and jackfruit meat. While chopping the sweet potatoes (Camote in More »

Understanding People

Written and Posted by: Margie Babon   When looking at people is like trying to look at a pair of slipper with hundred varieties of style and of color. All look similar More »

Forgive Others for not Being Kind

Written and Posted By: Margie Babon    To understand people of how they act and misbehave is the kindest thing we do to ourselves. I repeat, it is the kindest and most beautiful More »

Continue that Dream! Happy 2017!

Written and Posted by: Margie Babon     Life without a dream is nothing! It is the fire that keep us going. It gives life to the soul. It is the breath of More »

Small Note

Written and Posted By: Margie Babon   While going to the vet clinic to pick-up my rescued cat after his neuter, a man approached us with his small note written “Apology for More »

Smile Don’t Cost a Thing

Written and Posted By: Margie Babon “Good morning ma’am,” the lady security guard says to the staffs of women who pass by at the x-ray security machine at the entrance of a More »

“Seeking for an Answer”-Personal Experiences about Religion

Written and Posted by: Margie Babon   It is not a surprise to me if some people hate me for what I am writing about religion and cannot accept some ideas that More »

Usual Unusual

Written and Posted By: Margie Babon   It was 12th of February, Friday after office during rushed hour where traffic is so heavy and commuting is such a burden.  It is so More »

Real, True, and Pure

Written and posted by: Margie Babon   Be blessed when you are able to find real, true, honest, and pure people. They are very seldom to find and rare to come into More »

Category Archives: Anything Random

Small Note

Written and Posted By: Margie Babon

 

While going to the vet clinic to pick-up my rescued cat after his neuter, a man approached us with his small note written “Apology for my time, I’m doing this to support the education of my kid. Thank you.”

Written at the bottom of the note are:

Sign pen 20 pesos (half a dollar)
Ball pen 10 pesos (few cents of a dollar)

More than four people buy including me who believes in the intention of this man. To support hardworking people like him selling a product is far better than giving money to people who are handing you a small envelope begging for pennies. Like other third world country, Manila has a lot of beggar roaming the streets even outside the mall or other office building. And what is too bad, most beggar are obviously strong enough and young to find job and get some work. Before giving money to these beggar, think of old people that are more than sixty years old working in the market or selling in the street that are not begging but doing their best to earn. I totally disagree to those who are giving money even how small the coins are, still, the more you give the more you support them to become a beggar for their whole life. You support them to be more irresponsible and lazy not to work hard and get some sweat!

It is always better to support street vendor by buying their product. Even how young or old the street vendor still their intention is to survive, to buy food, to make them feel they have still hope to earn and to live.

You never know how much gratitude they feel every time you buy product from them.

So thank you for this man selling pen. At last for the first time I got apple logo!!

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“Seeking for an Answer”-Personal Experiences about Religion

Written and Posted by: Margie Babon

 

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It is not a surprise to me if some people hate me for what I am writing about religion and cannot accept some ideas that I concluded. Like you, I am also seeking for an answer. I keep searching for the truth and join different group from different religion. Yet, the sad thing was, none from any religion I connected with I have found an answer. N-o-n-e…None! .I did not find what I am seeking… There are no regrets that I experience joining them for awhile mainly for the reason of observations and what I gain are all lessons and that lessons have helped me to complete the puzzle and answer my very own questions about god. That the answer I am seeking cannot be found from other people, it is not an external matter but right inside the sacred part of my heart, in the silence of my own thoughts and spirit that is where I find god, in my own nature and the nature around us,  that is where I can communicate with god.

My memory is sharp that I can remember some things happened to me starting at the age of five years old. I have a playmate from nearby neighbor who is deaf and mute that was my one and only friend until I was six years old before moving to Manila for schooling. At age five, I love staring at the sun especially sunrise. Because I am the youngest, I keep on following my mother, to be with her like every morning that she will clean the vegetable garden or make some harvest or water the plants. We usually wake up at five thirty. Before the start of a golden sunrise, we were already out of the house and already at the garden.

While staring at the sun I keep talking to god. I keep asking god why my friend Veronica cannot speak and she can’t even hear me and why me, I am normal. Why Veronica is not like me, is there something wrong in the heavens, with the angels because she cannot talk. There was a time that I told god I am mad at her because I cannot understand what she’s saying and then she bites my hand and then run away. But then even if we cannot understand each other, we are still playmates and we love playing together. Sun, stars at night and wonderful blue sky is my avenue of communicating with god. If my parents scolded me or my brother is teasing me, I run out of the house and go to our small vegetable garden which is at the right side of the house in a hilly downward slope, and then I sit beside the circular well made of large stones and stare at the blue sky, looking at the beautiful formations of clouds and keep talking to god, no matter how sunny it is and how high the sun is, you will always find me there.

As a kid, I am very imaginative. I see clouds as beautiful angels and we are playing together. And when I hear my mother or father calling me to eat, my favorite farewell dialogue to the sky, to the clouds, to god is:“God I want to become a guardian angel. I want to have wings, to fly and hold a sword of light then fight the bad spirits because they are hurting me. God, promise it to me, I am an angel.  Bye for now, need to go home, see you later.” Because I see bad spirit in my half-wake dream and they are strong that they can pinch me while I am sleeping so I keep telling God I want to become a guardian angel and fight the bad spirit.

Since I am too young for six o’clock prayer to pray the rosary with my family, I was only there sitting at the corner and observing them. My parents are very strict Roman Catholic esp. my mother. There was a time when my two older sisters (who were eleven to fifteen years old that time) went home late from school, they arrived six thirty and the penance was they kneel on the floor full of rock salt. While praying the rosary, they were crying and their knees were bleeding. My siblings keep telling me that I am lucky because I never ever experience that kind of penance. My grandparents on father side though half Chinese are healer and they are pagan though they go to Catholic Church to hear the words of god, still they have their own style of faith. My father is not that strict but encourages us to pray before we sleep. While the grandfather on my mother side is purely Spanish who is a devoted Roman Catholic and how my mother discipline her children are based on her experiences from her father.

At age six years old when we moved to Manila, my parents’ lifestyle becomes different. They become busy working and they are not so strict anymore on praying the rosary every six in the evening. We usually do it every weekend especially Sunday during family day. Yet, I still cannot understand what is the rosary for and why do we need to pray it, speaking words repetitively. At age six, I am faking myself because I am scared of my mother, I have to pray the rosary, go with them to attend mass and follow what she wants. Still, I love going out of the house and stare at the sun, blue sky, and beautiful formation of clouds and telling the same prayers that I want to become a guardian angel with wings and that I can fly.

 

Holy

When I started schooling, we pray before and after the class. Doing sign of the cross and pray. As a kid, I am happy to be with other kids and we are reciting prayer together. At age nine years old, my curiosity about religion becomes stronger when we are required to have first communion.  I asked my teacher what it for is, she said for my own salvation. And I said, “To save from what? I did not do anything.” My teacher gets tired of my never ending question so she said, “You have a lot of questions, ask the priest and he will answer all your questions.”

My sister who is five years older than me is a devoted Catholic and at young age of fourteen, she has a role at the church as lector and commentator. She was the one who accompanied me for my first communion. But I didn’t know that before having the first communion, we need to go to the confession booth and talk to the priest and tell all our sins. I told my sister, “Why should I tell it to the priest? The priest doesn’t commit sin, is he a god to forgive us? He is only human like us. No I don’t want to confess.” Though I ran away, my sister dragged me and my teacher scolded me. That time I still remember I am crying hiding underneath the pew because I don’t have any choice but to follow them. Yet, I still did not tell anything to the priest. And guess what happened? The priest went out of the confession booth and talked to my sister, he said, “Talk to your sister, it is not appropriate that she is asking questions at that age.”

When the mass was ended,  I went out of the church and found a pocket garden with angel sculpture and a small wishing well. I looked up the sky and started talking to god. I asked god, “Do I really have to do this, to go to the church? Is that you god on the cross? Is that you? But it is not you, it is not!” I am silently crying and angry that time, because even how many times I keep talking to god, I never find any answer. So I need to follow what my family wants, I need to follow the school requirements are …for me to belong, for me not to be different.

Then years have passed, I am still following what my parents want, what my family want…I am still obedient to the religion we belong to.

Then the most unforgettable experience I had when I reached eleven years old happened during grade 6. Our adviser is a devoted Roman Catholic and she imposed to us to attend Sunday mass every four o’clock in the afternoon. We have this small form of attendance sheet where we will let the priest sign the form as a proof that we attended the mass. We need to complete a certain month for us to get clearance from our teacher since we are graduating already.

My favorite color is white and most of my Sunday dress for church is white even before my teacher set a rule that we need to attend the mass. So I keep wearing white dress to attend the required mass. Like other girls, I am behave and obedient making sure I finish the mass and get the signature from the priest.   I listen to the mass and attentive. Yet there is a different behavior of me from the rest of the kids, after the communion, I am always in a deep meditation, kneeling and praying.  Eyes closed, it was like I shut off the physical world and connecting within my spirit.

The next day in school, didn’t know that my classmates have noticed it. A group of boys are mocking at me, laughing at me and calling me, “Holy, holy,holy!!”  Of course I cried and get offended. Though my adviser told this group of boys to stop mocking at me, they still keep doing it secretly. One time when we were at the school garden and I am taking out the grass, somebody threw a small stone on me, then I saw these group of boys laughing and shouting “Holy, holy,holy!!”  And I also throw a small stone on them showing my anger. What feels too bad, the leader of that boys mocking at me is running for Salutatorian. I found out that he is so mean aside that he is so arrogant and proud.

After few weeks of mocking me, I told my teacher I don’t want to go to the church anymore. I would rather be with my family, with my parents to go to church. Until now as an adult, the memories of it are still vivid. It is easy to forgive but the visuals of what happened, it is difficult to forget.

 

Rapture

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When I reached high school, being in a pilot class, I met classmates that were same belief as mine. Like them, they are questioning religion. There was even times that I don’t want to go to church anymore with my parents but the problem; I will not have any allowance, and my parents told me to stop studying if I will continue being friends with my classmates who doesn’t like Catholic. I know, I don’t have any choice but still to follow them because I don’t want to stop schooling. During my fourth year high school, something happened that affect my parents and other siblings.

My older brother who is eight years older than me told my parent by surprised that he was converted as born-again Christian. My mother was so upset and so angry. Yet my brother keeps on reasoning why it is important to convert. He even convinced my three older sisters to let them convert that leads to regrets. My older sister said that the pastor who baptized them is asking for five hundred pesos to pay the service.  My sister refused and never went back again. Though my older sister warn my brother that it is a scam, my brother still keep on attending until to the point that he wants to leave our house and never go back again. He wants to live at the service church. He even gave away all his clothes, shoes, watch, all his things to his church mate, and he keeps on saying “The world will be vanished soon. We will all die with the rapture. Rapture time is near. Join me and praise Lord Jesus.”   He sounds insane; he is starting to get crazy. We are so afraid of my brother. My parents talked to the pastor who keeps on visiting my brother at the house telling them that they will file a case against them. Aside from getting money from my brother and from my parents, they are poisoning the mind of my brother and he is going insane. My brother stopped from his studies and he was sent to the province of my mother where he will be far from the born-again group. After a year, my brother recovered and went back to being Catholic and went back to studies again.

What happened to my brother was my first-time to encounter born again Christian. I don’t want to generalize all of them because they have different group but what I noticed, how they teach and preach is “poisoning of mind.” The second encounter with born-again was when I reached college and the friendship for more than two years I had with my close friends was ruined and destroyed by this religion. And this affect me how I see people, how I get close to people by being more careful not depending too much from them even to close friends.

 

Non-believer

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I act as a leader of our group which composed of five females and several male classmates ever since first year college. Taking up architecture is a tough course especially if there is a grouping project that you need to spend overnight at the house of your classmate. Since I act most of the time as a leader, I offer our house to them. My parents and other sibs are so kind that they even prepare meal for us, for them without asking any payment. For more than two years, my four female classmates become close to my family that they even call my mother “Mama.” We treat them as a family. If one of them lack of allowance or fare going home, my mother is giving them extra money.  Then a new transferee came when we reached 3rd year college that I was elected as president of student council of our department. I get very busy and seldom spend time with my friends that I am not aware that they become close to this new transferee who is a born-again Christian. It was fast, like, the girl is only a week in our school then after, my four close friends are ignoring me and don’t even want to talk to me. This new transferee became their leader and formed their own group and leaving me alone.

It was very very bad, I do not know what is happening that my close friends have left me. I did not do anything wrong as why they are avoiding me.  I confront them at the hallway after design class asking them why they have left me casting me out.  And their reason almost shocked me. They said, “Why should we consider you as a friend? You are non-believer! Antichrist, you’re devil! Catholics are Antichrist, do you know that? Worshiping an idol, praying rosary repetitively! You are non-believer and we shouldn’t make friends with Antichrist and non-believer! You are evil!”  I felt my blood abruptly went up to my head; they mocked me in front of other students. So I replied, “What?! You were poisoned by this new one that you do not even know who she really is. So this new girl is your savior? After how many years we build the friendship, you even eat and sleep at the house, helping you in your project, lending you what I have, unselfish of what I have then now telling me I am a devil?! Is that your new god now, condemning people that we are non-believer, Antichrist! You’re so mean! All of you are so mean!”

Though I can still see them in other classes for the remaining two years, I bear that hardship to be with myself. What they have done to me changes me as a person, I become careful not to get close with other people, it was difficult for me to make new close friends.  Which until now, I still carry that lesson. I become much closer to my parents and my siblings. I become much closer to myself. And starting eight years ago, my spiritual life becomes more stronger creating my own journey, that when my mother died and without parents anymore, living independently teach me trust more of God, that my life is being guided as long as I am responsible who I am. I communicate more to God through silence, meditation, and through nature.

I live independently alone, living independently lead me to become more spiritual, to be more closer to the divine who created everything—to God that I can find within my own silence, within my meditation, within any activity of work that I put myself to. Though I keep seeking for the truth, there is still the curiosity of why there must be religion.

 

Gate Crasher

One Saturday afternoon while doing some sketches, I was at the study room facing the balcony. The balcony has staircase outside so anyone can go up to the balcony. Because I was so focused in what I am doing, I notice someone appear in front of me. The window of the study room is facing the balcony. I was so surprised and even yell. “Excuse me maam, I will just share to you the words of God,” she said.

She’s a member of Jehova’s witnesses.  Then I said, “Why here at the balcony. There is a main door downstairs that you can knock. Don’t you know what you’re doing is trespassing.” Then the old woman said, “I will just give you the booklet and it is free.” Then I said, “Okay but I am not interested. Don’t you have any other dreams in life that you are so devoted to your religion? Better go home and be with y our family than distributing that. And the old woman left.

 

Other trial and observations

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One time I was invited by a yoga teacher to attend Sunday yoga with him and his group. I am not aware that his Sunday free yoga class has short lecture on Hinduism.  I know that yoga came from Hindu and the teachings of this very ancient religion is more on conscious and spiritual path of knowing yourself more and connecting with your spirit. I enjoy the yoga class and the meditation. I have also met some that are devoted of Krishna in their uniform. What I cannot understand, they are not allowed to eat garlic and onion and other spices that will have sexual arousal. But then, it is part of biological feature of human being to have sex, to bear kids, to enjoy life.

On the other hand, I was also invited to attend a Buddhist preaching. During the sharing of the topic about unselfishness, a girl told her sadness about this Buddhist Temple  that he wants to go inside and stay for a night but the people at the temple did not allow her though she have done it before. The girl was disappointed because she needs to finish a certain level of studies about Buddhism before she can join the event that night. According to the girl, she cannot understand why there are boundaries and limitations as well as selfishness of sharing information in which makes her feel frustrated. After that sharing of stories, I found out that people around me that day are like me, also seeking for the meaning of God…on finding God.

 

Questions Answered

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For how many years I am seeking about god, the mysterious creator, and the answers on why there must be religion, etc. all these were answered along the way of self-discovery and life’s adventure.  When I was given a great opportunity to finish the book for indigenous people to claim their land, my stay in their place for more than a month and visiting them for a year have helped me to further my insights about faith, god, and religion. I have witnessed the way they live, though it is very simple, still they know how to smile, how to laugh and how to inspire me with the beautiful stories of their culture. Yes I was surprised when I saw a born-again church in their place but most of the elders I have interviewed with and talked with (on and off of the voice recorder), they are against religion. Like me, they were also condemned as non-believer, pagan, Antichrist and devil. But then, they keep on telling that “they are only human like us and by heart they know there is god.” I was touched by the explanation of Dada Selang who is the eldest of the group. She said,

“My parents, grandparents and ancestors believe in god. Born-again and Catholics are saying we are on the practice of animalism and we do not believe in god. Religion and people created different names of god but all of these things around us were created by god. Do they know the true god? We do not know how to read the bible but we believe in god. The moment the sun rises over the ocean, then you see birds happily flying around, these beautiful mountains, beautiful blue ocean, forest full of tall tress—all of these nature around us are the evidence that there is god. And at night, look at the night sky, there is full moon and beautiful stars watching us…and what more, each night that we sleep and then the next day we still have breath, we are still alive, is the greatest evidence there is a god. If we are punished with our sins, why are we still alive and yet nature still provides us food—fish are abundant, forest food can still be found. I don’t like religion and I did not allow my son, daughter and even my grandchildren to embrace that religion and be baptized. You don’t need to make your life complicated when it comes to faith. The moment you think about god, the moment you admire nature, you are praising god, you are praying. In this age of mine, I am too old and I don’t need those preaching.  I learned that what is important is your personal belief. Just live, enjoy life, but be kind, always be good to others. Because creation is out of gods’ kindness, we too must share that kindness. God wants us to be kind.”

I was astonished with the wisdom of an elder age around 65 years old who is Agta-Dumagat. And she is right; it is human nature that we believe that there is god. Though it is such mystery, it is beyond our thinking so why should we bother about it. Let it remain as mystery because we are created to live in a mystery.

With all the different group of religion I have encountered and have experienced, none of them have I found the wisdom I am looking for. Yet, it teaches me that, in order to belong to, to be called as group or to be labeled, join and be under the religion. Like any other enterprise, religion is a business and it cannot run on its own without financial sustenance.  Though they have different charities, still, on top of it, you have to believe on what they believe.  And because of the label attached to each religion, this divides people. It is a casting of same entity.

I know that we need to give respect to each other especially when it comes to religion. But respect is only being given if there is mutual respect from one another without forcing people to convert them and there is a huge respect of not changing the original belief, customs, traditions of people.

In this age of mine and for the difficulties I’ve been through with religion, I have realized that a person can live and survive without religion. And because you don’t want to “belong,” you have your own way of praying, you have your own practice of communicating with god, and you have your own way of thanking god and expressing your love to god.

Always be responsible for who you are…for god wants us to be our own authentic self pursuing our own purpose in life, to be successful, to be truly who we are. Do not be bothered by society’s norm as long as you are doing your best in order to survive. As long as you know honestly that you are maximizing your life’s greatest potentials,  and you are sharing your life, you are into generosity and kindness, giving love to others, you do not do anything wrong, not harming people or hurting people, you are kind to yourself, to other creatures, you are kind with nature,  you are doing good…you are living with greatest kindness, you are totally fine. Just enjoy life, focus on work, focus on what must be accomplished and set aside the worries about god and religion. You are here to discover who you are and share your life to others and not to carry doubts about god. Surrender those questions to the mystery for that mystery is beyond human thinking. Focus on your own life and find ways how to share it and become a blessing.

 

Credits:

Photos from Google images except the last part under the section “Questions Answered”  which was my photo during the documentation with Agta-Dumagat of Luzon.

 

Usual Unusual

Written and Posted By: Margie Babon

 

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It was 12th of February, Friday after office during rushed hour where traffic is so heavy and commuting is such a burden.  It is so difficult to catch a ride. I was standing at the side walk in front of a shopping mall with a lot of passengers also looking for a service vehicle to go home. Because there is no proper line and we are not at the terminal station, in order to catch a ride, you need to be attentive, quick and fast.  Then a service vehicle without passengers stopped in front of us and luckily I get in. I am sitting beside the driver and we are all-in-all ten passengers. The vehicle is silent, no music  yet the only sound you can hear is the communication radio. After fifteen minutes when we have reached the Stock Exchange Building, the driver speaks up in a loud voice  like he is holding a megaphone. Really that loud!

Sir, maam, I just need your attention. I want to share to you the words of God. According to the bible, but let us pray first and thank Lord Jesus,  blah blah blah..” The driver started to preach. Because his voice was so loud, I put my ear phone and started to listen to the radio on my phone and put the volume high but I can still hear the voice of this “preacher-driver.”  When we have reached a school near the stock exchange tower, I really cannot stand it anymore. No one among the passengers is having the courage to let him stop so I took the moment. I got the nerve to speak out.

Me (talking to the driver): “Excuse me; will you continue to preach until we reach Pasig Church?  (Pasig church is the last destination of the route that will take us an hour due to heavy traffic).

Driver (in a very loud voice and yelling): “Maam what is wrong, I am just sharing the words of God. You know, the first time I hear the words of God, it makes me cry. No one is teaching me the words of God.”

Me: “You don’t need to yell. First of all, we take a ride for us to go home. Understand most of your passengers came from work. We are so tired. Now, you don’t need to feed us those words of God. I respect your belief, but please also respect us. You don’t need to teach us what to do, we have our own thinking mind, we have our own belief, and we have our own dreams. You don’t need to teach us what to do.  I have only 3 hrs. of sleep, I am sleepy and tired  and I am not interested in your preaching. Look at the other passengers, no one is interested. Just focus on driving and no need to preach.”

Driver: (still keep talking to his own self, telling how poor he is and other drama of his life yet no one is listening to him. Passengers are minding their own business, holding their phone doing Facebook while earphone and headphone was on. He keeps on talking and talking..)“People are so illiterate when it comes to the words of God. Lord Jesus is the only savior and he will save you. You know before I convert to become born again, I am so lost. I don’t know where I am.. According to Romans chapter blah, blah blah..”

Me: (started to get angry) “Will you please shut up!!  You are so stressful. Stop talking about your life. Preach it in your church where people are same minded as yours and not with the passengers who are tired, hungry and want to go home. Shut up!”

Then the driver finally stopped talking and put the am radio on listening to the news.

When we finally reached Pasig Church, when I get off from his car, I said in a loud voice, “Thank God I’m out!”

Heck my feelings lighten up when I saw two teenage boys laughing while pointing out the sticker at the back of the trike  saying “Butt Man” (hahaha)

The plate number of the service utility vehicle is  UWJ577 and written at the back of the door “To God be the glory.” The travel route is SM Megamall-Robinsons-Pasig..So beware of this SUV unless you want to be preached and get stressed by his so so loud voice. Passengers travel to relax while taking a ride and not being forced to listen to life’s drama which is stressful.

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The driver who is preaching the words of God appear to me as a crazy man (for while he sis talking, he is laughing) and he was poisoned too much by the group he belongs with. I feel sad for this man; he is living under the control of other people. His mind, heart and faith are under the spell of the society who is so blinded about the words of God. For sure, this man doesn’t know how to listen to his own spirit, to connect within the divine creator seated in his authentic soul and spirit. Because he was controlled, even his faith and belief about God comes from other people, he was manipulated by the society.

This experience is so unusual to me. I’ve been working in the Ortigas area for how many years and it was my first time to encounter a driver who is preaching the passenger.  While I have seen a a lot of pastor or born-again preaching in public places even at the  market where beggars are around and even along the street, born-again preacher is very usual, very common scenario.

I do believe that we meet strangers to teach lessons and in return gaining lesson from them. Each of us is living with individual faith when it comes to the topic about God (though we belong to different religion). Do not force people to let them be like you and believe in what you preach because faith is about individualism. And when we talk about religion, we are dealing with norms of society, generic, common that doesn’t care for individual faith between you and God, it doesn’t know the word “privacy. “The driver and other preacher or pastors like him are already closed-minded like a horse on a carriage and they cannot do anything but being controlled by the horseman. For them, in order to save your soul, you have to join their group, convert and become a believer.

According to their shallow mind, if you are not a believer you are illiterate. No matter how you argue with them, you cannot win. None is illiterate when it comes to faith. We don’t need religion if you are truly connected with your own spirit because faith is a sacred conversation between you and God. Think of the indigenous people, they do not know how to read and write, they do not know how to read a bible but they know by heart that there is a god. Upon waking up, seeing the beautiful sunset, hearing the  chirping of birds, seeing the beauty of flowers, being with nature, they know by heart there is God and that is enough. You don’t need to convert people to be under your religion. Your very own existence, having your own breath is the greatest reason to believe that there is a god who created all of these and you don’t need a lot of laws, scriptures, teachings in order to live, saved and survive.

Always remember this: God wants each one of us to be successful, to be of service to others without controlling others, to find our purpose, to be truly and honestly be who we are by doing the desire of our soul, to make others happy by helping others in finding a meaningful life without manipulation but with freedom towards truthfulness that is align on their own personality , on who they are, doing what they want without poisoning their hearts and mind.

 

“When I admire the wonders of a sunset or the beauty of the moon, my soul expands in the worship of the creator.” –Mahatma Gandhi

“True religion is real living; living with all one’s soul, with all one’s goodness and righteousness.” –Albert Einstein

 

 

Author’s Note:

What if I become more kinder to the driver and give him more understanding and through that, I will help him to be out of that poison and too much wrong belief…maybe I can help him to analyze what is really the right one. But because I am so sleepy, tired, hungry and I don’t like too much noise, and the driver is nagging his passengers in a very loud voice that we are not saved, so I confront him. Though I talk in a gentle and kind words when I approach him in the beginning (honestly I even join him in opening prayer, I also pray silently) but then his thoughts are not aligned properly on what the real faith is. Sorry if I appear as disrespectful to the driver but in order to be respected, he must show that he deserves it. 

 

Rare Christmas Full Moon

Written and Posted By: Margie Babon

 

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Worth the wait for an hour to capture the Christmas full moon with firecrackers as the background

 

Awesome!! Got the chance to capture this very “Rare Christmas Full Moon”  Super lucky for capturing the full moon with firecrackers as the background. Very worth the wait since firecrackers are in random and I don’t know if I can make it. But then, Lucky Charm hit my camera so I got it!! 

It was after 38 years that the Christmas full moon appear in the sky. The last was in December 1977. The next full moon for Christmas will be in 2034. So Keep your eyes to the full moon this 25th of December. This will happen again after 19  years.

According to NASA, at 11:11pm auspicious time, the full moon will set its peak in brightness and visibility.

 

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Waiting for the rising of the full moon. This has no camera flash

 

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Waiting for the full moon to rise

 

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Christmas full moon while rising, using a camera flash

 

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Waiting for the full moon with firecrackers

 

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Got the chance to capture the moon with firecrackers

 

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Got the chance to capture the moon with firecrackers

 

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Got the chance to capture the moon with firecrackers

 

 

Source of info:

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/rare-christmas-full-moon-will-add-to-holiday-light/

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/christmas-day-full-moon-first-in-years-uk-2015-a6785741.html

Photos: Margie Babon

 

Copying the Name and the Contents of Hyperkreeytiv

Written and Posted by: Margie Babon

 

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To all the viewer and readers of my blog, I truly appreciate your time reading my content. Without all of you, I won’t be able to get inspired for me to continue my writing and creative skills and share to all of you my thoughts, creative idea  and wisdom in which all of these post are truly our of pure hard work.

To some blogger out there and website content writer,  copying of my content is allowed if you will ask permission from me. I feature some artist, writer, photographer and creative illustrator, who also put the very best of their effort to share skills and talent for free , the reason is  for all of us to get more inspired and to learn from them.  This blog will not exist as well without them and if I have the character of being selfish.

 

We are here to share what we know, we exist to teach others, cheer others, inspire others, in which, the main goal of hyperkreeytiv, the main goal of our existence.

This is a paid website and I do not ask any donations from all of you. As you will notice, I do not even put commercial ad, I only put what is relevant to the blog and what is related to my work, so that this website will be sustainable. I am working hard since 2012 to maintain the site with honor and dignity and make the reputation of this website truly clean, with good intentions by writing content that I believe is truly valuable.

If I copy a picture or inspirational quote, I put credits at the end of the post. Now, if you will copy the content and some original photos of mine without asking my permission, copying the name of Hyperkreeytiv, and put this to your website without asking permission from me, what is your intention of doing that? 

Actually, I am flattered that you like the poster, photos, inspirational quote, other cartoons and write-up but there is disadvantage of doing it. Because of the name duplication, you are misleading the reader which is the “real” Hyperkreeytiv website, you let me appear that my blog is a “spam”, ruining the name of Hyperkreeytiv.  Almost four websites are copying my content and none I receive any permission that they will use my content even the name and sub-title of “inform, inspire, thoughts, ideas, etc.”

 

I am willing to share the content even the photos, I am generous when it comes to sharing knowledge. But please, be kind and be considerate, give  respect.

Now because of what had happened, I opt that the copying of the pictures and content in Hyperkreeytiv blog will not be allowed. You cannot copy it even when you right-click images and words even I want it as much as I do, so that when people are doing write-u p for a topic, if there are students who need specific reference, they can use some of my content, which is my intention, that people can use the content for good purpose. But because of what happened, I have learned my lesson.

 

Thank you everyone, readers from different places all over the world, I truly appreciate your time reading my post and sharing it.

 

All the best to everyone. More love and wisdom!

 

“Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.” -Charles Caleb Colton *

 

 

 Photo: Courtesy of Google image

 *Brainy quote

 

 

About Margie Babon

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Margie Babon is fascinated to the wonders of nature and beauty of life and she is expressing it through writing, blogging, painting, photography and drawing.

A former college professor in both College of Architecture and School of Fine Arts  in Manila and a former  volunteer of an environmental organization that lead her  for the divine purpose of helping a community of indigenous people to claim the ancestral domain they have waited for more than 10 years.

 

 

Empathy

Posted and written by: Margie Babon

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Looking at the long queue, Hannah line up her basket filled with bread, milk and pasta towards the cashier. Standing third before the end of the line, she checked her list and found out she forgot to get some peanut butter and cookies. Asking kindly for a favor, she told the woman behind her to look for her basket for she missed some items on her list. The old woman agreed to look for her basket.  When Hannah came back holding peanut butter and cookies she noticed a woman stepping on her basket filled with bread, , since there is no cart, the basket is laid down on the floor. She did remember that this woman was on the last line before she left to get some stuff. Now the woman was in front of her and stepping on her basket. Irritated, Hannah looked at the woman heavily and the woman stepped down her feet.   She looked at the old woman behind her asking why the woman in front of her over takes her line, the old woman answered, “She said you left the basket so she must over take.”  Hannah said, “But I told you I will come back and the line is too long before our turn, what is her problem?.” The old woman just smiled then the woman who over takes her is talking to another woman who is also in queue saying, “People should not left their basket, this line is intended for people and not for the left basket.” Hannah starts to feel irritated, telling the old lady in front of her, “Is that the reason why you over take my line? Because I wasn’t here?” The old lady said, “Yes, no one will look at your basket so I must over take.” Hannah said, “But I told to her (pointing to the old lady behind her) that I forgot cookies and peanut butter and it was just fast that I came back.”  The old lady in front of her said yelling in a high pitch voice, “Who cares? Why should I care for your basket!.” Hannah gets angry and yelling as well, “So it means you don’t care for other people? You are so bully, you stepped on my basket filled with bread and then you take over my line without asking my permission. I will understand and allow you if you want to pay first before my turn but stepping on my basket filled with food and yelling at me, you are so mean! ”  The old lady said, “Why should I care for you and to other people? You left your basket and I must over take!.” Hannah yelled, “You are so mean! Just remember these words; the moment you get out of your house, you do not know your safety.  No one knows when will accident happen and to whom,  and I wish it is not yours because if that happens, no one will care for you. What you show to others will come back to you!.” And the old lady and the other people surrounding them were silent.

Hannah felt so bad that she can feel her face turns red face. Disgusted and irritated, she paused and gently said, “Oh God, forgive people who are shallow-minded and doesn’t  have any empathy to others and I’m sorry if I yell.”

As Hannah reached the cashier and handed her membership card, the cashier said, “Happy birthday maam!”  Hannah was surprised! For her it was a heartfelt concern despite of what happened. Smiling cheerfully, Hannah said, “Oh thank you.”  The old woman behind her is smiling and told her, “that woman is so bad, just laugh at it sweetie. They have inner problem and it is not yours to catch it.”  Hannah smile cheerfully saying, “Thank you so much for looking at my basket while I left to get some cookies. Happy holidays!” And her last smile as she left has a pure intention of love to that old kind woman.

 

Is the story has a similar experience with you of encountering people who doesn’t care how you feel?

Face the reality, not all people has empathy to the needs of others. They think of themselves first on what they can get rather on what they can share and give. People who have the heart to give concerns with others are real gem. They live with pure loving heart willing to help on what they can do best. Empathy requires sensitivity that you can feel the emotion of the person. You look at yourself and think what if you are in her/his situation, how will you feel.

Kindness is not complete without empathy, compassion and understanding. People need people in order to survive. Perhaps, people who doesn’t show concern is just wearing a mask of insecurity and fear. And we must understand that they also carry experience that contributes to their rough attitude. But no matter how bad some people are, we must show them kindness and teach them what is proper by being a role model.  We cannot control the attitude of people but we can control our reactions and that is what we need to master: to be patient, loving and kind no matter how tough circumstances will be.

 

Empathy-  the ability that you understand the emotions of another

                  -the ability to imagine in another’s place and understand the other’s feelings, desires, ideas and actions.

 

When you show deep empathy toward others, their defensive energy goes down, and positive energy replaces it. That’s when you can get more creative in solving problems.-Steven Covey

 

Empathy is about standing in someone else’s shoes, feeling with his or her heart, seeing with his or her eyes. Not only is empathy hard to outsource and automate, but it makes the world a better place.-Daniel Pink

 

No act of kindness, no matter how small is ever wasted.-Aesop

 

How people treat you is their  karma; how you react is yours. –Wayne Dyer

 

Everyone gets dumped and everyone gets hurt and there’s karma to love in regards to what you’ve done to other people. –Marina and the Diamonds

 

Source: Merriam Webster free dictionary and Brainy Quote

 
margie-blog pic-final 21octMargie Babon was given a privilege to become a wildlife photographer in 2006 that let her choose to be a vegetarian for seven years now. Has background in film making as a producer and researcher on the plight of Agta-Dumagat documentary film Children of the Mountains that garnered the 2005 Mark Haslam Awardee  in Toronto, Canada. Sharing her passion in photography, drawing & creative writing  is a great opportunity to express her wisdom which is beyond academic teaching career for more than five years in College of Architecture and School of Fine Arts.

 

Is it Difficult to be Honest and be Truthful?

Posted By: Margie Babon

 

Lying is done with words and also with silence. –Adrienne Rich

In our day to day conversation with different people, have you wondered how many statements are true?  Do you have doubts or easily trust what people say?  According to the studies of Robert Feldman of University of Massachusetts in 2002,   “in every 10 minutes conversations are likely to be lied 2-3 times.”

Who on this planet never ever lie in their entire life? I think we all did esp. when we were young that we are afraid being scolded by our parents or teachers and in order to gain trust, we need to save our own self and tell a lie. As I observe children, teens and adults, telling a lie comes in different age. As young as five year-old kid and as old as more than 60 year-old adult, both can tell a lie.  Is it part of the human brain to tell a lie? Is it innate to human behavior?  Or is it part of human survival?  Is it lying or for the sake of reasoning?

 

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Based on studies of 50 children and interviews with parents conducted by Dr. Vasudevi Reddy of the University of Portsmouth, children begin deceiving as early as age six months with behavior such as pretend laughter or crying even when nothing was wrong just to get attention.

A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, there are three categories of lies: for our own benefit, for someone else and both ourselves and others.

 

We express ninety percent of who we are through body language and ten percent only account for words. Observe this in a conversation, if people look at the left, they are lying and when they look at the right they are thinking.  If this is only a myth, you will know this by observing their action (non-verbal) and by trusting your intuition.

Not only human being are dishonest, it is also present in animal kingdom where animals pretend dead not to be eaten or harmed by a predator. With this behavior, pretending is also dishonesty as a tool for survival.

And what funny, there is a long list of different types of lie like white lies (that the Christian accept this as a good lie but still it is a lie), exaggeration, bluffing, half-truth, honest lie, political lie, etc. You cannot avoid reacting and feeling dismay when somebody lied to you and you wonder why they should not tell the truth?  You felt being a victim being played on. But who is really the victim of dishonesty, the person being betrayed or the person who tells the lie that shows dishonesty?

 

According to the psychologist Robert Feldman, “people immediately lie when they find that their self-esteem is being threatened.”

 

Honesty is a virtue but ironic that cheating becomes rampant not only in relationship but in the society where a lot of corrupt people and not only politicians exist. And wouldn’t you think religion is also a big lie?  And what is weakness to some people?– when it comes to money, some people becomes greedy and very dishonest. It seems that dishonesty nowadays becomes ethical values. If Pinocchio truly exist, a lot of people has elongated nose. I also wonder why some people are truly comfortable living with all dishonesty.  It is like they are living with a rosy tinted glass full of illusions and deceit. Or could be they accept the fact that they live with dishonesty and they don’t want to get out because it gives them satisfaction and happiness.

With how many times being fooled and so innocent of what others are telling, at the end, we still give trust and kindness. Do not consider yourself such a victim if you encounter people who offered you a gift called dishonesty whether in the form of losing money or relationship. Feel sorry for them, they are the one who doesn’t have peace of mind, living with doubts, fear and selfishness. They do not care how others will be affected as long as they get what they want.  And even how untruthful they are towards other people, the consequence is always towards them which lead to trouble and unhappiness.

People are different from one another and we need to accept the fact that in this world we live with, no matter how we give trust easily, we cannot avoid encountering dishonest people. Aside from the lesson we gain from them, by giving back true honesty, we are presenting to them honesty, kindness and good intentions that leads to a happier life.

Innate or acquired from the environment, as an adult who knows the right from wrong; lying is not present to a person who has the purity of intention. Honesty and truthfulness enlighten the spirit and soul and in that, no confusions and doubts ever exist, only more truthfulness and joy.

 

Below is an excerpt from the song “Honesty” by *Billy Joel, released in 1979.

If you search for tenderness

It isn’t hard to find

You can have the love you need to live

 

But if you look for truthfulness

You might just as well be blind

It always seems to be so hard to give

 

Honesty is such a lonely word

Everyone is so untrue

 

* Joel further sings about wearing his heart on his sleeve in “Honesty”It talks about the inherent lack of honesty even in the closest of relationships.  According to Chuck Klosterman of The New York Times, “[the song] implies that the only way you can tell that someone really cares about you is if they tell you you’re bad.” (Source: Wikipedia)

Based on the Billy Joel’s song, he formed already doubts to everyone which is not good.  This song appears as weak and helpless. Despite of bad experiences when it comes to dishonesty, we need to give trust in order to survive and not only to form a relationship.  Better plant the seeds of faith rather than doubt that will yield to stress and negative perceptions.

 

“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.” –Thomas Jefferson

 

“No legacy is as rich as honesty.” –William Shakespeare

 

“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.” –Buddha

 

Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships. - Stephen Covey

 

Image courtesy of Google.

 

About the Author

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Margie Babon was given a privilege to become a wildlife photographer in 2006 that let her choose to be a vegetarian for seven years now. Has background in film making as a producer and researcher on the plight of Agta-Dumagat documentary film Children of the Mountains that garnered the 2005 Mark Haslam Awardee  in Toronto, Canada. Sharing her passion in photography, drawing & creative writing  is a great opportunity to express her wisdom which is beyond academic teaching career for more than five years in College of Architecture and School of Fine Arts.

 

The Cab Driver

Posted By: Margie Babon

 

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Great Service is a choice. Every one whether employee or owner of enterprise and business, we all render different kinds of services.  Even within our own home, the way we live with our parents and siblings is through the action we do, the way we give help, the way we respond, the way we serve and communicate which summarize the word ‘love.’ Service is not only about serving others or working for the community, but it is about our honesty and responsibility within ourselves that we reflect and mirror to people around us. The way we love, respect and treat ourselves is the way we treat others.

Here is a very inspiring and amazing story of a cab driver named Wally who chooses to love his work and improve his life that yields more profit  by treating customers with generosity and kindness with the best of his ability.  Wally, The Cab Driver is a story excerpted from Ken Blanchard’s The Simple Truths of Service, 2005

 

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No one can make you serve customers well. That’s because great service is a choice. Years ago, my friend Harvey Mackay, told me a wonderful story about a cab driver that proved this point. He was waiting in line for a ride at the airport. When a cab pulled up, the first thing Harvey noticed was that the taxi was polished to a bright shine. Smartly dressed in a white shirt, black tie, and freshly pressed black slacks, the cab driver jumped out rounded the car to open the back passenger door for Harvey. He handed my friend a laminated card said:

 

“I’m Wally, your driver. While I’m loading your bags in the trunk, I’d like you to read my mission statement.”

 

Taken aback, Harvey read the card. It said:

 

Wally’s mission statement:

To get my customers to their destination in the quickest, safest and cheapest way possible in a friendly environment.

 

This blew Harvey away. Especially when he noticed that the inside of the cab matched the outside. Spotlessly clean!

 

As he slid behind the wheel, Wally said, “Would you like a cup of coffee? I have a thermos of regular and one decaf.”

 

My friend said jokingly, “No I’d prefer a soft drink.”

 

Wally smiled and said, “No problem. I have a cooler p front with regular and Diet Coke, water and orange juice.”

 

Almost stuttering, Harvey said, ”I’ll take a Diet Coke.”

 

Handing him his drink, Wally said, “If you’d like something to read, I have The Wall Street Journal, Time, Sports Illustrated and USA Today.

 

As they were pulling away Wally handed my friend another laminated card. “These are the stations I get and the music they play, if you’d like to listen to the radio.”

 

And as if that weren’t enough, Wally told Harvey that he had the air conditioning on and asked if the temperature was comfortable for him. Then he advised Harvey of the best route to his destination for that time of day. He also let him know that he’d be happy to chat and tell him about some of the sights or, if Harvey preferred, to leave him with him his own thoughts.

 

“Tell me, Wally,” my amazed friend asked the driver, “have you always served customers like this?”

 

Wally smiled into the rearview mirror. “No, not always. In fact, It’s only been in the last two years. My first five years driving, I spent most of my time complaining like all the rest of the cabbies do. Then I heard the personal growth guru, Wayne Dyer, on the radio one day. He had just written a book called You’ll See it When You Believe It. Dyer said that if you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you’ll rarely disappoint yourself. He said, “Stop complaining! Differentiate yourself from your competition. Don’t be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.”

 

“That hit me right between my eyes,” said Wally. “Dyer was really talking about me. I was always quacking and complaining so I decided to change my attitude and become an eagle. I looked around at the other cabs and their drivers. The cabs were dirty, the drivers were unfriendly, and the customers were unhappy. So I decided to make some changes. I put in a few time.  When my customers responded well, I did more.”

 

“I take this has paid off for you,” Harvey said.

 

“It sure has,” Wally replied. “My first year as an eagle, I doubled my income from the previous year. This year I’ll probably quadruple it. You were lucky to get me today. I don’t sit at cab stands anymore. My customers call me for appointments on my cell phone or leave a message on my answering machine. If I can’t pick them up myself, I get a reliable cabbie friend to do it and I take a piece of action.”

 

Wally was phenomenal. He was running a limo service out of a Yellow Cab.

 

“Always give the customer more than they expect.”- Nelson Boswell

 

Hilarious, Ridiculous and Clever Fashion Rules, Part 3

Posted By: Margie Babon

 

 

How do you enjoy reading and sharing part 1 and part 2 of the hilarious fashion rules?  Does it make you smile, laugh or does it makes you feel bad as you see yourself in some of the ridiculous fashion rules?  Heck, it is not yet the end of those crazy rules!

 

Here is the last part of the hilarious fashion rules which you can add to your list. Though clever in a way, still, it has great insights and knowledge on how will you pair your clothes properly that won’t make you look funny. Whether you are a simple Cinderella working in the kitchen or a queen and king of your own kingdom, these rules are applicable to everyone.

 

 

Rule # 35 There is no fashion for the old

Classic line according to French fashion designer Coco Chanel  (1883-1971)

 

 

“My biggest inspiration is old people. Their style is not pretentious. Their cord jacket might be a little worn, have elbow patches, but they’re like I’ve been on the planet this long, this is my style.” - Andre’ 3000 (1975), American rapper, actor and designer behind label Benjamin Bixby

 

 “A woman is as young as her knees.”- Mary Quant (1934), British fashion designer

 

 

 

Rule#36  Blue and green?—never both be seen

If you are working at the circus, wearing blue and green shades are acceptable.

 

As French style guru Madame Genevieve Antoine Dariaux points out, color combinations, or clashes, are subject to fashion: “A shade or combination which seems impossible to us today is quite likely to enchant us tomorrow.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“I can remember how daring it was considered when Dior first combined brown and black in the same ensemble, but now this harmony is considered a classic, as is navy blue with black.”- Madame Genevieve Antoine Dariaux (1914), French style guru

 

“I love wearing navy and black together and have just done a print with blue and green in it. I don’t play by the rules…”- Alice Temperley (1975), British fashion designer

 

 

 

Rule#37 Satin and sequins are evening wear

“Sequins acceptable options for day, Bless ‘em.”- Laura Craik, fashion editor

 

“Evening is a time for real experimentation. You never want to look the same way.” –Donna Karan (1948), American fashion designer

 

“Having rules of what’s appropriate is dated. It’s all about blurring the lines of day and evening wear, high end and low.” –Alexander Wang (1984), American Fashion Designer

 

 

 

 

Rule#38 Functions not Fashion

It’s been called the fashion equivalent of the form follows function dictum. The idea is that a design’s functional requirements should prevail over purely aesthetic concerns.

 

“A hat is where function meets fashion.” –Ann Watson, fashion director at NYC’s Henri Bendel

 

“Fashion is a function of lifestyle, and style a function of quality, integrity and timelessness.” –Ralph Lauren (1939), American fashion designer

 

“It’s about turning clothes designed for function into fashion.” - Ralph Lauren (1939), American fashion designer

 

“Having few pairs of boots, which can go with a variety of lengths, is really functional.” –Valerie Steele (1955), American fashion designer

 

“Uniforms are fundamental to menswear. Fashion is all about the combination of function and putting on a show—and wearing clothes as a uniform.” –Stefano Tonchi (1959), Italina-born style editor

 

“Follow function, not fashion. A good bag should have a clasp or a buckle only if it’s got a purpose.” –Charlie Porter (1973), British fashion editor

 

 

 

Rule #39 Match your tie with your shirt

 Many men struggle with this one, but it is really quite simple. A striped shirt is best paired with a single-colored tie. If you insist on wearing a patterned tie on a patterned shirt, make sure the pattern on the tie is bolder than one on your shirt. And as for clip-on and bow ties: should be avoided at all times.

 

“A well-tied tie is the first serious step in life.” –Oscar Wilde (1854-1900), Irish poet, playwright and author

 

“Tie-weares of all nations unite. Cast off the rope that binds you. Risk yoru neck. Liberate yourself and venture forth into open-collar paradise.” –HRH Prince Clasu of the Netherlands (1926-2002), removing and throwing away his tie at the award ceremony.

 

“If men can run the world, why can’t they stop wearing neckties? How intelligent is to start the day by tying a little noose around your neck?” –Linda Ellerbee (1944), American journalist

 

“I do not mean to suggest for a moment that all it takes to be a top executive is a custom-tailored European suit. You also need the correct shirt and tie.” –Dave Barry (1974), American author

 

 

 

 

Rule #40 Dress for the Occasion. As wells as the destination

 

“My number one belief when designing uniforms is that if you want to look like a manager, then dress like a manager. Dress for the occasion.” –Peter Morissey (1962), Australian fashion designer

 

 

 

 

Rule #41 To be beautiful, one must suffer

 

“Tight corsets, chemical peels, butt implants, suffocating neckties, strict diet, uncomfortable heels, botox injections, breast augmentations. There seems no limit to the amount of suffering people who are willing to endure in the pursuit of beauty.

 

“The French say that we must suffer if we would be beautiful, and this appears to have been and to be the opinion of most people, savage or civilized. Beginning with the hair, we find that savage like civilized, men and women will not let their hair follow its natural bent nor keep its natural color.” –The New York Times, 1881

 

“I’m’ having surgery today to have my face cleaned up. But it will take some fancy stitching to make me all beautiful again!” –Patsy Cline (1932-1963), American country music singer

 

“I personally would not have plastic surgery. What the hell for? It looks ridiculous.” –Calvin Klein (1942), American fashion designer

 

“I’m addicted to cosmetic surgery!” –Janice Dickinson (1955), American model and self-proclaimed first supermodel

 

 

 

Rule #42 Don’t mix prints and patterns

If you recycle your floral curtain and table cloth and turn them into skirt or blouse or dress, still not an exception!

 

 “If you’re going to mix prints and patterns, then anchor the look with to-die-for shoes.” –Isaac Mizrahi (1961), American fashion designer

 

Don’t mix too many floral designs together—you will look like a garden.” –Trinny Woodall (1964) & Susannah Constantine (1962), British fashion advisors and television presenters

 

 

 

Rule #43 Fashion is made to become unfashionable

 

 The transitory nature of fashion, summed up beautifully by French fashion designer Coco Chanel (1883-1971)

 

“So soon as fashion is universal, it is out of date.” –Marie Von Ebner-Eschenbach (1830-1916), Austrian author

 

“Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have alter it every six months.” –Oscar Wilde (a854-1900), Irish poet, playwright and author


“Fashion fades, only style remains the same.” –Coco Chanel (1883-1971), French fashion designer

 

“Fashions are born and they die too quickly for anyone to learn to love them.” –Bettina Ballard (1903-1961), editor American Vogue

 

“Only minute and the future are interesting in fashion—it exists to be destroyed.” –Karl Lagerfeld (1938), German fashion designer


“Fashion will be in fashion for a long time.” –Angelique Westerhof (1969), director of the Dutch Fashion Foundation

 

 

 

Rule #44 Shoes and belt must always match (and so your shoulder socks)

This is the male equivalent of the rules in women ‘Shoes and bag must always match’

“Socks play an incredibly important role in a man’s life.” –Oscar Wilde (1854-1900), Irish poet, playwright and author

 

“I have always dressed according to certain basic Guy Fashion Rules including: ‘Both of your socks should always be the same color.” Or they should at least both be fairly dark.” – Dave Barry (1947), American author

“With a suit, always wear big British shoes, the ones with large welts. There’s nothing worse than dainty little Italian jobs at the end of the leg line.” –David Bowie (1947), British musician

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Rule#45 if you’ve got it, flaunt it

Nothing wrong with playing up your best assets. Although it’s always nice to leave something to the imagination. After all, it’s a fine line between sexy and slutty.

“As you grow older, cover up. Aging flesh is not appealing.” –Edna Woolman Chase (1877-1957), American editor-in-chief Vogue

 

“It’s always better to be looked over than over-looked.” –Maw West (1893-1980), American actress

 

“Fashion is in terrible state. An overdose of too much flesh.”- Geoffrey Beene (1924-2004), American Fashion designer

 

“A woman’s dress should be like a barbed-wire fence: serving its purpose without obstructing the view.” –Sophia Loren (1934), Italian actress

 

 

 

Rule#46 Horizontal stripes make you look fat

 

In 2008 a group of British scientist made a shocking discovery. Their study showed that contrary to popular belief horizontal stripes do not make you look fat. In fact, quite the opposite is true: horizontal stripes make you look thinner. That’s another fashion myth dispelled.

Adding horizontal stripes to shapes like rectangles makes them look thinner, a phenomenon known as the Helmholtz illusion.

 

“I can’t wear stripes or bright colors because they make me expand.”- Giorgio Armani (1934), Italian fashion designer

 

“Stripes are an easy way to have some fun with your look. I always think of David Hockney—the way he dresses with striped shirts and stripes socks. It’s a way to dress with flair but stay within the classic vernacular of men’s wear.” –John Bartlett (1963), American fashion designer

 

“With few exceptions, horizontal stripes are the more stylish choice unless you want to look like a Sesame Streer character, horizontal stripes could be difficult.” -Anonymous

 

“Don’t wear horizontal stripes socks unless you make a living as a circus clown.” -Anonymous

 

 

“Make a careful choice in wearing black and white stripes; consider not wearing those when visiting the zoo where zebras are waiting for you.” –Anonymous

 

 

 

 

 

Rules #47 Vertical stripes make you look taller

Determine the weight of the stripes, as a general guideline, keep the stripes thin. Whether horizontal or vertical, wide stripes are not stylish.  Horizontal lines make short women look thinner and taller.

“Vertical stripes can be great but if you’re tall and thin, it will make you look like a Lurch!” -Anonymous

 

 

 

Rule#48 Wear the clothes, don’t let them wear you

 Nobody wants to look or feel like a human clothing hanger, which is why clothes should never over-empower the person wearing them.

 

“If you wear clothes that don’t suit you, you’re a fashion victim. You have to wear clothes that make you look better.” – Vivienne Westwood

 

“The dress must not hang on the body but follow its lines. It must accompany its wearer and when a woman smiles the dress must smile with her.” –Madeleine Vionett (1876-1975), French fashion designer

 

“There is much to support the view that is clothes that wear us and not we them; we make them take the mould of arm or breast, but they would mould our hearts, our brains, our tongue to their liking.” –Virgina Woolf (1882-1941), British writer


 

“The personality of the person wearing the clothes is more important.”-agnes b. (1941), French fashion designer

 

“Women and men should always interpret clothes according to their style, be ironic and self-confident and let clothes take a supporting role to their personality. A dress should never look like it’s overpowering the wearer. –Domenico Dolce (1958) and Stefano Gabbana (1962), Italian fashion designers

 

“Look for the woman in the dress. If there is no woman, there is no dress.” –Coco Chanel (188301971), French fashion designer

 

“Never fit a dress to the body but train the body to fit the dress.” –Elsa Schiaparelli (1870-1973), Italian-born French fashion designer

 

“The dress must follow the body of a woman, not the body following the shape of the dress.” –Hubert de Givenchy (1927), French fashion designer

“The fashionable woman wears clothes. The clothes don’t wear her.” –Mary Quant (1934), British fashion designer

 

“Over the years I have learned that what is important in a dress is the woman wearing it.” –Yves Saint Laurent (1936-2008), French fashion designer

 

 

 

 

Rule #49 “Fashion is architecture” It is a matter of proportion

 Another fabulous fashion one-liner quote from Coco Chanel.

“Dressmaking is the architecture of movement.” –Pierre Balmain (1914-1982), French fashion designer

 

“The dress is a vase which the body follows. My clothes are like modules in which bodies move.” –Pierre Cardin (1922), Italian-born French fashion designer

 

“Dressing a woman or man one must think in terms of lines, volumes, proportions. T is exactly the same as ‘dressing’ a space. The difference, the most important one, is that for the fashion designer the work of reference is the human body, an object in motion.” –Gianfranco Ferre (1944-2007), Italian fashion designer, known as ‘the architect of fashion.’

 

“Hips are absolutely the key to every shape I do, because whatever you do at the top or bottom, you want to keep it slim and narrow on the hips. One thing is for certain: No one, man or woman, wants big hips.” –Tom Ford (1961), American fashion designer

 

“Modern fashion is less the proportions, more the elements which touch the person, their nervous receptors. That is why the latest trends are seen in accessories.” –Sandra Backlund (1975), Swedish fashion designer

 

“I am very fascinated by all the ways you can highlight, distort and transform the natural silhouette with clothes and accessories.” – Sandra Backlund (1975), Swedish fashion designer

 

 

 

Rule #50  Don’t wear too many colors at once

 

 

 Unless you’ve been cast as the lead in the musical Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat there is absolutely no reason to walk around looking like a human color wheel.

 

“The beggar wears all colors fearing none.” –Charles Lamb (1775-1834), British essayist

 

“The best color in the world is the one that looks good on you!” –Coco Chanel (1883-1971), French fashion designer

 

“I like light, color, luminosity. I like things full of color and vibrant.” –Oscar de la Renta (1932), American fashion designer

 

“it’s really easy to get colors right. It’s like hard to get black—and neutrals—right. Black is certainly a color but it’s also an illusion. –Donna Karan (1948), American fashion designer

“I love color, black does nothing for me.” –Italo Rota (1953), Italian architect

 

“Colors make me happy, if I feel yuck, I wear black.”- Henry Holland (1983), British fashion designer

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Rule #51 Hemlines rise and fall with the stock marker

Miniskirt marks a well-performing market. Low market means longer skirts.  That is, according to the so-called hemline theory which was coined back in the 1920’s by American economist George Taylor

“Every season I take the opportunity to convey a much larger message than just hemlines and trends.”-Kenneth Cole (1954), American fashion designer

 

“In difficult times fashion is always outrageous.”- Elsa Schiaparelli (1870-1973), Italian-born French fashion designer

 

“Fashion is never in crisis because clothes are always necessary.” –Achille Maramoti (1927-2005), Italian fashion entrepreneur and founder Max Mara

 

“Fashion anticipates, and elegance is a state of mind…a mirror of the time in which we live, a translation of the future, and should never be static.” –Oleg Cassini (1913-2006), French-born American fashion designer

 

“Long is young and sophisticated; short works. Everything in my own wardrobe is in different lengths.”- Donna Karan (1948), American fashion designer

 

“Fashion is a part of the world and part of history. It’s not a meaningless swirl of meaningless clothes. They reflect the times.” –Valerie Steele (1955), American fashion historian

 

“Fashion is an expression and a reaction. It’s a reflection, and even a proposal, on the current situation of our society.” –Helmut Lang (1956), Austrian fashion designer

 

 

 

Rule #52 Pair the shoes and bag with your outfit

 

 

Consider this simple rule to pair your shoes and bag to what you wear and to your outfit. This is very common mistake to women, wearing sports clothes with rubber shoes on while carrying a leather ladies bag and vice-versa, wearing a formal dress while carrying a Jan sport back pack, which I find funny!

“You don’t have to carry a designer bag that costs more than a car to look cool.” –Kesha

“Is that weird?—taking my Louis Vuitton bag for camping?” –Jessica Simpson

“Shoes are like friends; they can support you or take you down.”-Anonymous

“Shoes are the quickest way for women to achieve instant metamorphosis.”-Manolo Blahnik (1942) Spanish fashion designer

 

The right shoes can make everything different.” –Jimmy Choo (1948), Malaysian-born UK fashion designer

 

 

 

 Rule#53  Break the Rules

 

 

“There are no rules for inspiration, you have to have a quality view on things and my curiosity helps me to find inspiration in the most unconnected of strange situations. But there is no rule or only one: Keep your eyes open.” –Karl Lagerfeld (1938), German fashion designer

 

“I have always believed that breaking rules is what makes clothes interesting. It is what I’ve done in different ways for my entire career. I love mixing fabrics and shapes in unexpected ways—the classic with the modern, the rugged with the elegant. There are no limits, as long as it’s done with a certain taste level.”- Ralph Lauren (1939), American fashion designer

 

“I think fashion is about suspense and surprise and fantasy. It’s not about rules.”-Wolfgang Joop (1944), German fashion designer

 

“I think that we need to laugh at everything once in a while. All these rules, all these things that we’ve been discussing about fashion—to me, hen people talk about issues it’s all matter of prochoice. You’ve got to be able to allow people to choose whatever they want.” –Marc Jacobs (1963), American fashion designer

 

“I hate rules and formulas. That’s so boring. It’s the opposite of creativity. Rules are ridiculous things that are meant to be broken.” –Philip Treacy (1967), British hat designer

 

“The fashion world is an industry, and we had to learn to stick to certain codes and rules.”- Viktor Horsting (1969), Dutch fashion designer and one half of Viktor & Rolf

 

 

 

 

Consider these fashion rules as a guideline or break the rules to be yourself. Fashion after all is about you, it is an expression of who you are without feeling of shame or guilt on imperfect pair you wear or funny colors that you choose.

 

Whether for fashion or not, the most important is that your clothes are clean no matter how old it is. Being practical in price tag is better than to flaunt for fashion sake even if you cannot afford it, to follow your impulsive attitude on buying clothes, bags and shoes if you have debts to pay will just create trouble. Basic necessity for the family must be secured first which are food, home and bills than spending too much just for fashion sake.

 

“Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street; fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening.” –Coco Chanel

 

“Elegance is usually confused with superficiality, fashion lack of depth. This is a serious mistake: human beings need to have elegance in their actions and in their posture because this word is synonymous with good taste, amiability, equilibrium and harmony.” –Paulo Coelho

 

“Style is more about being yourself.” –Oscar dela Renta

  

 

 

 Hilarious, Ridiculous and Clever Fashion Rules, Part 2

 Hilarious, Ridiculous and Clever Fashion Rules, Part 1

 

Apology for the featured photo used , a woman wearing urinal which is very degrading to women, it implies negative message.  We deleted it and change to a bettter one.

 

References: Wikipedia, Brainy quote, Google, Hilarious and ridiculous Fashion Book

Images: Google

 

 

About the Author

Margie Babon was given a privilege to become a wildlife photographer in 2006 that let her choose to be a vegetarian for seven years now. Has background in film making as a producer and researcher on the plight of Agta-Dumagat documentary film Children of the Mountains that garnered the 2005 Mark Haslam Awardee  in Toronto, Canada. Sharing her passion in photography, drawing & creative writing  is a great opportunity to express her wisdom which is beyond academic teaching career for more than five years in College of Architecture and School of Fine Arts.

 

 

Lessons in Upgrading WordPress version 4

Posted and Written By: Margie Babon

 

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Few days ago, while creating another website, something terrible happened, the Hypekreeytiv website was gone!! I was so stressed, was sad and honestly it brought me some tears that all the content I created for 2 years was gone. I am so thankful to my hosting site Fat Cow for having great assistance, in 6-7 hours, my website is up and running!

Every time I log in to my WordPress admin panel, at the home page always has this note, “Please update your WordPress to Version 4.0” So I did try to upgrade to version 4 without any hesitation and without searching first if it will be good with my theme and website layout.

After upgrading to version 4, my website looks horrible, the logo and categories overlap. And what makes me feel bad, the “Share This” plug-in was gone. I was so stressed again and did regret that I upgraded to version 4.

I contacted the team of Fat Cow again for 2 days, that the plug-in “Share This” was gone and it will be useless to post content that the reader doesn’t have any chance to share it.

To those people who are using older version of WordPress and still confuse if you will upgrade or not, here are my advice:

 

  1. Think it again and again and analyze first if you will upgrade or not. If you are using older version of wordpress and it is running smooth, do not upgrade anymore. The theme you are using might not be compatible with the upgraded version.

 

  1. Some plug-in will not work out like what happened to me. Here is the story how I bring it back. I told the team of my hosting site that if they cannot bring back the “Share This” icon in my website, I will completely uninstall it and install a new one that will be compatible with WordPress 4.  I don’t want too much stress and life is like that, accident and problems cannot be avoided, so just accept it.  Before going home from the office, I did try to take risk in my admin panel to uninstall the plug-in and then install it again. Luckily it works! Now the “Share This” icon re-appeared like magic! So funny that I was the one who discovered it while the technician from my hosting site is so puzzle how to bring it back. Lesson: if you upgraded to version 4 and found out that some plug-ins are not work, just deactivate the plug-in and then activate it again.

 

  1. Not because it is new and latest version,  it is the best. Here comes the word “contentment.” Upgrading to higher version is risky, it is more complicated to use. I advise you to be content with your wordpress no matter how old the version is that you are using. If it is running fine, don’t be bothered to update it. Take it from me!

 

  1. Now, if you really want to upgrade for the latest version, do the work! Make research, seek advice to reliable people who are using   upgraded wordpress. Make sure you have reference when older plug-ins you needed are gone. Get ready to have resources of the solutions and do not hesitate to seek assistance from the technical support of your hosting site. If still you got problem unresolved, completely change your theme and plug-ins that will be compatible to the newest version, which means more work for your website. 

 

Good luck!

 

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